a couple years ago, someone whose friendship i valued convinced me to censor myself and my blog for the sake of her modesty. her anger at the expression of my own opinions on *my own life*, as i was reminded of it by her circumstances, caused me to change how i express myself. supposedly, she and her group of friends sat around a table and discussed how insulting i was.
for letting her stories remind me of my own memories.
there is nothing that i hate more than being discussed without the opportunity to defend myself. i don’t generally care about what people know or say about me, but *i* want to be the gatekeeper of my own information. i want to have the right to give details or keep secrets, as i see fit.
the incident may have been the downfall of our friendship. things were certainly never the same with her friends. i got even more bitter when she told me that it was an accepted fact that i am stubborn and pigheaded, and asked me not to tell her friend that i preferred my car to hers.
i was totally insulted. i consider a difference of opinions to be cause for healthy debate, not a reason to look down on someone. i also thought that she would know me better than to think i would either consciously insult her friend with my judgment of her car, or even expect *anyone* to prefer my possessions to their own.
believe it or not, i’ve reined my opinions in quite a bit. i deleted my the offensive blogpost. i publicly apologized to her friends. when she exclaimed that she found a field full of yaks in the middle of connecticut, i didn’t bother to let her know that they were actually just scottish highland cattle. it would certainly have resulted in rolled eyes, probably an argument and my friend telling me i don’t know everything.
i have tried to let sleeping dogs lie, in an attempt to at least appear more moderate in my views, and for the sake of avoiding offense.
but god, it’s dull.
i have opinions on everything. EVERYTHING. i don’t think that’s a bad thing, and i don’t mind a little debate. i don’t judge people for their views (with the possible exception of the topic of same sex marriage. i go off the deep end on that one a little…). if i am given enough convincing evidence, i am willing to adapt to a more reasonable take on the subject. but for christsake, challenge me!
don’t be offended when if i never come around to your way of thinking. just give me a better debate, and maybe i will.
Saturday, 24 October, 2009
Monday, 28 September, 2009
i’ll have things to blog about soon. i am a melancholy baby, and i think that’s worth a few words.
see you soon.
Friday, 11 September, 2009
…are effing adorable!
I have been traipsing around the office in these all day, in preparation for the 2 weddings i have to wear them to. I haven’t fallen once! Yet.
